The Power of Yes
The beginning of this past summer got off on a rather rocky start: I finished up one of my most challenging quarters in college, I had to pick my topic for my senior thesis, I was beginning a new internship, moving back home for the summer, and to top it all off my boyfriend and I ended our nearly two-year relationship. I've got to admit, it was a rough period, full of instability and general uncertainty as to what direction my life was going to go. I have always been a person that craves comfort and certainty and those first few months of this summer were anything but comfortable or certain.
There are certain events in my life that I can point to and say for sure that they had lasting effects on the way I not only see myself, but life in general. More often than not those events start out negative and evolve into something positive. This was one of those instances. Like I said, I craved comfort and certainty and those two things were pulled out from under me and ultimately I am grateful for it. Comfort and certainty made me just that: predictable. I was safe in my relationship and in the path I was planning to take post-graduation, and I did everything in my power to stay on that path and deviate as little as possible. Because I was so stuck on staying on this path I said no to a lot. I never challenged myself to go outside of my comfort zone.
As that sense of certainty had escaped me, I started saying yes to things. I no longer had a rigid path to follow and for the first time in two years I felt like I could stray and still end up alright. I went out after work even when I wasn't necessarily in the going-out mood, I met new people and reconnected with old friends that I probably never would have had I not put myself out there, and I generally started saying yes to things that I normally wouldn't have. It's taken me a long time to finally come to grips with the fact that leaving your comfort zone is the most beautifully terrifying thing that you can do. While I'm not advocating to say yes to everything, I think that saying yes to things that you normally wouldn't have said yes to can lead you on some pretty amazing adventures and teach you things about yourself that cannot be taught if you are living in your comfort zone.
Here's to saying yes!